A frustrating Monday morning

It was a frustrating Monday morning. I couldn’t log in to my work email. The error message said my account no longer existed. All of my archived messages, carefully sorted into digital folders, had vanished. My mind started churning. What if I needed to refer back to them later? What about my contacts and calendar with color-coded appointments, reminders, and tasks?

Breathe, be grateful, accept

Sure, I could project my frustration onto others, but it wouldn’t fix anything. I reminded myself to breathe. I meditated, drank my water, and made my smoothie like usual. I remembered I had a roof over my head, food in my fridge, and a loving family. It wasn’t life or death; it was simply an inconvenience. Six hours later, I had a new email provider and active account. My calendar and task lists had been restored, but the contacts and emails were gone.

Would I need one of the missing emails later? Maybe, but probably not. The rational part of me knew accepting the situation was more productive than worrying. Calmly taking action kept the unexpected email fiasco from ruining my day. Plus, it seemed silly to get worked up over something minor.

If it won’t matter in five years…

Later that evening, I ran across an appropriate quote while scrolling through social media:

“If something won’t matter in five years, don’t spend more than five minutes worrying about it now.”

Control what you can and let the rest go

How much time do we spend worrying (and complaining) about things that aren’t that important? And what good does it do us? Not much. Mostly, it leads to unnecessary stress and steals our joy. No matter how hard we try, we can’t control the external world. All we can control is our reaction. If we stay calm, we can think more clearly to come up with a solution. Sometimes, there is no solution, but there’s always a lesson. Losing my contacts and archived emails was inconvenient, but it won’t matter in five years (or next week).

A healthy approach to dealing with frustration

The next time you feel frustrated by something, try this approach:

Pause. Take some deep breaths. Ask yourself if it will matter five years from now. Ask yourself if worrying helps the situation. If you’re honest with yourself, the answer to both of those questions is probably no.

Now, do whatever you need to do to calm down. Go for a walk. Call a friend. Meditate. Dance around the house. Be creative.

Feeling calmer? Good. Now, is there an action step you can take?

Yes? Wonderful. Take action.

No? Then, do your best to accept what is and let it go.

There is always a lesson

Have faith that life’s minor inconveniences are happening for you, not to you. Perhaps there’s a lesson in patience, acceptance, or realizing what truly matters. Maybe you’re being strengthened or redirected. Take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Life is too short to worry over things we can’t control, especially things that aren’t that important in the first place.




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Fifteen years of professional experience in nutrition & bodywork fields and eight years of small business ownership taught Danielle Ratliff to value balanced living over hustle. Rising from the ashes of trauma, mental illnesses, burnout, and societal expectations led to an awakening. Now she empowers overwhelmed humans with guided meditations and articles so they can calm their minds and create aligned, joyful lives. Learn more at www.joyfulrising.com or contact her directly at danielle@joyfulrising.com









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