The Gentlemen’s Corner w/ Colin Furcht – New Year’s Resolutions

The Gentlemen’s Guide to New Year’s Resolutions

We’ve all made them. Most of us failed. Why do we do this to ourselves year after year? I wanted to understand where this whole thing came from, so I did a little research. History tells us the Ancient Babylonians started to do it 4000 years ago. My guess is that they never fulfilled all of the promises made either. That said, it’s still a great way to clear the slate for the New Year and set some goals personally and professionally year after year. I have pondered this one all year and here are some suggestions for all of us to do better.

What is a Resolution?

The Dictionary tells us that a resolution, among other things is ‘the act of resolving or determining upon an action, course of action, method, procedure, etc.’. My interpretation is setting a goal and making it happen. Why then, are we as adults so bad at this? Well, probably because there are no repercussions if we don’t. If we shared our resolutions with friends and family and made them aware of our progress or shortcomings, I bet we’d all do better. Maybe the key is to hold ourselves accountable first.

1. Set reasonable, attainable goals. If we set the bar too high and consistently come up short, it’s very demotivating. Be realistic about the goals you set and have a plan. Saying you are going to lose weight or save money, while great goals, without a plan, is certain failure. Document the goal, set incremental success goals and put it on paper. Seeing it every day is very powerful. 
2. Keep track of your progress. Every goal should have a strategy. Keeping yourself accountable on a weekly/monthly basis is key. Reviewing your progress, either alone or with a friend, will help you understand why you are, or are not, going to reach that goal. Is it lack of desire, time, tools? Being aware of your progress, be it a resolution or any other goal, will be the easiest way to accomplish them.
3. Set a few tough ones. While I initially suggested attainable goals, there’s nothing wrong with shooting for the moon! While it may seem out of reach, you may be able to build a plan over the year to make it easier next year? Think about chess. Always be a few moves ahead. Strategy is a must when it comes to any plan or goal. Think about how amazing it would be to reach that tough one and the sense of accomplishment it would give you for your other smaller goals. Success drives success!

4. Share them with friends and family. No one wants to be micromanaged, however, having another set of eyes on your progress could be a driving force in meeting any resolution.  Sharing your progress with a trusted family member or close friend could very well the kick in the rear you need. If you are more of a procrastinator, this person maybe be exactly what you need. If you crave attention, this also could be the perfect way to get that positive reinforcement.
5. Give yourself credit. Giving credit where credit is due is an old but still very true adage. Be it yourself or someone else, make sure you are celebrating your success and building your self-esteem. On the flip side, if you are not meeting your goals, take responsibility for this and take some time for introspection. Ask yourself the hard question. Why? You set the goal, you are responsible for attaining it, you have no one to blame but yourself. Take a breath and reassess. If it’s important to you, you will find the right path.
6. Find a resolution buddy. The buddy system has been around forever. It’s always easier to accomplish something with another person at your side. Sharing your goals with a close friend might actually encourage them to do the same. Just like at the gym, having a workout partner that will push you and make sure you show up, you will absolutely see better results. Choose your buddy carefully and make sure you both want this and will hold each other accountable.

Why do one at all?

If you have no desire to make a New Year’s resolution, don’t. I’m not here to push you to do anything you don’t want to do. However, I have found that putting a short list together every year has helped me stay focused. Some years I wanted to have more money in the bank, others involved my weight, one year I wanted to be a pilot. I can honestly say that more times than not, I hit those goals and looked forward to the next year. I’m built that way. It’s not for everyone. But wouldn’t it be great to set a few goals and meet them? Think about how good that will make you feel and how those small wins could lead to much bigger ones. Grab a brother and get that list together, I promise it will only be as hard as you make it! Happy New Year!

Colin Furcht- BRO Beard Products CEO/Live Music Promoter

Colin has been a long time Lake Norman resident and has been very active in the community. From Commissioner to founding the Lake Norman Lighted Christmas Boat Parade to now a featured Author, small business owner and live music promoter! His desire is to bring men together and encourage them to reach out. He has always said, ‘look out for yourselves and each other.’ All men need a Brotherhood. www.brobeardproducts.shop